Most if not all of us who have budgets to manage, collections to develop, and patrons to serve view vendor relations as something more than just is “a topic on everyone’s mind.” We have been and continue to take actions…
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Time and duty to one’s employer is "of the essence" in vendor relations; much less so for AALL
25
Jan
Living Will
21
Oct
Everyone should have a living will or an advanced directive – Here’s why. Free living will template, sample forms
and resources for living wills and power of attorney for health care decisions.
Google+ Goes Live To Everyone
20
Sep
Google’s new attempt at a social network is now open to the general Google user community, and from Google’s perspective, anyone who would like to join that community. The service started some three months ago and attracted interest from the…
Privacy and Security, Not Privacy or Security: Solove on how to make progress in debating the issues
29
Jun
“Daniel Solove is one of America’s leading experts on privacy law. In this engaging book, he explains why privacy is everyone concern; it is a crucial social value that must be integrated into our national security policy rather than simply…
Funeral questions
I was not invited to my ex-wife’s funeral, not even after 33 years of what I esteem to be a good marriage. She did not want me there, and when I went anyway, my son Ben put me in the hospital with the help of the local Kent, Connecticut guards "obeying orders, mein herr." Awaking, relieved to find that I was not dead too, things did work out for the better. Now I’ve had time to reflect. Was I right to go, or wrong? I believe the Irish have it right; friends, enemies, everyone’s welcome, and it’s party time!
I asked "Ask Amy". She said I was nothing more than a hooligan [maybe I am, but a proud hooligan I hope]. I asked my neighbor, who should know more about these things. He does, after all, run the local "Hollywood Forever" cemetery. He pointed out that they always obeyed the wishes of the departed, but this was his view:
Personally, I do not feel that anyone should be excluded from a funeral – especially those who most need to find peace with the deceased. At Thai Buddhist funerals (never private), which we conduct often – a bowl of water is placed on the lap of the deceased. All of the mourners are given a small cup of water from a golden bowl. One by one, they pass by the deceased and pour the water into the bowl. The water represents all that remains unfinished, unexpressed, unsaid between the mourner and the deceased. To not allow proper mourning, to ignore rituals, to erase or deny death – well – it creates a haunted culture – the living unable to find peace because the dead have not been put to rest.
I like that. After all, that choice is the last one you are ever likely to make, because, well, it is after all.
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